Black men and women dating questions
I never found it easy to ‘get’ a Japanese woman, then again, my fiancé and I met on a Japanese TV show for the express purpose of finding someone to marry.
The modern version of the omiai (arranged marriage) seems to be working quite well for us.
Typically gaijin bars in areas like Roppongi, Shibuya, Shinjuku, Ebisu, and those sorts of places.
And if you approach them in such an environment, where they’re pretty much expecting it and frankly came there for that purpose, then you’re unlikely to scare or embarrass the hell out of them.
Living in different prefectures we never would have met without the show.” “One big difference I’ve found is that there are fewer places here in Japan where it’s seemly to approach women.
Whereas in NY– my former stomping ground — pretty much anywhere, including on the street, was within acceptable parameters as a suitable place to meet girls, here, due to certain customs and/or expectations, the number of places is significantly lower.” “Japanese Girls who are looking to get involved with a Non-Japanese (NJ) man (which is relatively few, but appears very high when applied to the number of NJ men living here) will make themselves available at places where they expect to find foreign men.
I suspect, though I might be wrong about this, that it is pretty difficult for a NJ woman to conform to Japanese men’s / Japanese society’s expectations, and it is the rare case that a man will disregard these demands.
I’ve never had a Japanese woman snap at me for trying to approach her, but I have in America!
After seeing my profile, several women came to meet me.
It definitely made things easier knowing they were interested in me, yet there were distractions as well.
When approaching women, guys often are afraid of being embarrassed or publicly rejected. If the woman isn’t interested, or doesn’t understand you (for those who don’t know any Japanese yet), she’ll just ignore you or walk away.
You can simply blame it on the language disconnect and move on.” “Sometimes you don’t have to approach at all.